The Life of J

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  • The Constant Struggle of Productivity: How I Manage Focus & Guilt

    The Constant Struggle of Productivity: How I Manage Focus & Guilt

    The Productivity Paradox 

    The other day, I sat staring at my to-do list — not a neat, minimal one, but the sprawling, chaotic kind that makes you feel like you’ve already failed before you’ve started. My phone buzzed, I checked it “just for a second,” and somehow 15 minutes later I was watching a video of a man building a miniature log cabin out of matchsticks.

    Does any of this sound familiar? If you’ve ever struggled to stay productive or felt frustrated by your own distractions, you’re definitely not alone.

    Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves to always be productive? 

    Everywhere we look, there’s a message about maximising output: “Wake up at 5am,” “Plan your day the night before,” “Never waste a minute.” The modern world seems obsessed with squeezing every last drop of efficiency from our time — but the more I try, the more I realise how exhausting it is. 

    We live in a culture that celebrates being busy as a badge of honour. It’s almost as if saying “I’ve been swamped” is proof that we’re doing life right — a signal to others that we’re pushing forward, achieving, and making the most of every minute. Social media only adds to this pressure, serving up endless highlight reels of people who seem to achieve more before lunch than I manage in a whole week. 

    For me, the guilt often creeps in when I take time to do something purely for myself. If I spend an evening watching Netflix or getting lost in a game instead of working on my business, writing a blog post, or tackling something on my to-do list, there’s a nagging voice in the back of my mind telling me I’ve wasted the day. 

    That guilt usually hits hardest at night, when I’m getting into bed and my brain starts its review of the day. I think about all the things I should have done and could have done, and it’s frustrating because I know that I could have been more productive if I’d just stayed focused. Instead, I replay the hours that slipped away on small distractions, wondering where my discipline went. 

    It’s a vicious cycle — my interest locks onto something new, my attention drifts, and before I know it, the day has gone. I can’t help but think my ADHD plays a part in this, because my brain needs genuine interest to stay engaged, and my interests are quick to hop from one thing to another. And so the pressure builds, not just from the outside world, but from myself. 

    The Downside: When Productivity Becomes Stressful 

    The truth is, constant striving comes with a cost. When you’re always chasing the next task, the next goal, or the next “hack” to squeeze more out of your day, you start to lose sight of the point of it all. It can leave you burnt out, anxious, and oddly dissatisfied, even when you’re getting things done. 

    Lately, my motivation has been at an all-time low — partly because I’m not enjoying my job. When the thing that takes up the biggest chunk of your week brings little to no joy, it’s hard not to let that drain your energy for everything else. And when motivation slips, distractions find their way in more easily. It becomes a snowball effect: the less I do, the more frustrated I feel, which makes it even harder to get back on track. 

    Living with a very productive partner adds another layer to this. She’s brilliant at getting things done, and while I admire it, I can’t help but compare myself. I often find myself measuring my day against hers, wondering if I’ve pulled my weight or done enough. Sometimes this is particularly hard because I don’t always notice when things need doing — my memory isn’t amazing, and if I don’t write something down, there’s a good chance it will slip my mind entirely. That means my focus tends to be narrow and linear, fixed on whatever is already on my list, rather than on the broader picture of what could be done. 

    The irony is that the harder I push myself to be “on” all the time, the less I seem to achieve. Instead of feeling accomplished, I’m left with this lingering sense that I’m falling short. That constant mental pressure — from myself, from the world, and from the silent comparisons I make at home — can be exhausting, and it doesn’t always leave much room for joy in the things I once loved. 

    Finding Your Own Way: What Productivity Means to Me 

    Over time, I’ve realised that being productive isn’t just about ticking boxes for the sake of it. For me, it’s about making progress in ways that feel meaningful — whether that’s finishing a blog post, making a bit of headway on a home project, or even tackling a list of small but necessary chores. 

    One thing I’ve noticed about myself is how much better I feel at the end of a day when I’ve got a lot done. It’s not just about big wins — in fact, I often feel more satisfied after completing lots of small tasks than I do from finishing one or two large ones. There’s something about seeing a long list with plenty of ticks that gives me a real sense of achievement. Because of that, I’ve made a conscious effort to break bigger jobs down into smaller steps, so I can keep building momentum throughout the day. 

    I’m also trying to take a wider view of what “being productive” means in my life. It’s not only about work or chores — it’s about getting more out of life overall. I want to strike a balance between achieving the things I need to and having the time and space to enjoy the things that make me happy. For me, that might be spending an evening gaming, diving into a new interest, or simply relaxing with my partner. 

    I think the sweet spot lies somewhere between productivity and satisfaction — getting enough done to feel accomplished, without becoming so focused on output that I forget to enjoy the present. That’s the balance I’m aiming for, even if it’s still a work in progress. 

    Strategies That Actually Help 

    These aren’t magic “productivity hacks” or guaranteed solutions — they’re simply methods I’ve found that genuinely help me. I’m not an expert by any means, and I’ve learned that the most important thing is to experiment until you find what works for you. Some of these ideas might click instantly, others might not suit you at all, and that’s okay. 

    • The “5-minute rule” — If something can be done in under five minutes, do it immediately. It stops little jobs from piling up and creating a mental backlog. 
    • Breaking things down — I tackle bigger goals by dividing them into small, manageable steps. It makes it far easier to start, and it also means I get that extra boost from ticking more things off my list. 
    • Two to-do lists — One shared with my partner for household tasks and anything that affects both of us, and one personal list for my own day-to-day reminders. I even have an end-of-day reminder to check both lists. 
    • Journalling for motivation — I covered this in a bit more detail in this blog post, but then I’m struggling to get going, I’ll write out a goal — sometimes just the end result I want — and let myself imagine what it will feel like to achieve it. That little spark of excitement often gives me the push I need to take the first step and get the ball rolling. 
    • Limiting my phone’s pull — Social media and short videos can easily eat up my time, so I try to keep my phone out of sight whenever I can. My smartwatch lets me handle calls and messages without needing my phone right next to me, which helps more than I expected. 
    • Music as a focus tool — Playing the right kind of music helps quiet the background noise in my head and keeps me moving. Something upbeat works best for me when I need to power through. 

    These aren’t foolproof — I still have off days — but when I put them into practice, I notice a real difference in how much I get done and, more importantly, how I feel about it. 

    Embracing Imperfection 

    If there’s one thing I’ve had to remind myself over and over again, it’s that nobody is perfect. It’s completely normal to have good days and bad days — the aim isn’t to somehow eliminate the bad ones entirely, but to try and increase the number of good ones over time. 

    Some days, I’m in the zone, ticking things off my list left, right, and centre. Other days, I can barely muster the motivation to do the basics. And that’s okay. It’s the same with anything in life — there will always be peaks and troughs. The more productive I can be on some days, the more freedom I have to enjoy slower, lazier days without feeling guilty about it. 

    And lazy days aren’t necessarily a bad thing either. We only get one life, and while getting things done is satisfying, it’s just as important to make sure we’re still living — spending time on hobbies, relaxing with people we care about, or simply doing nothing if that’s what we need. Being productive should enhance our lives, not consume them to the point where we forget to actually enjoy them. 

    For me, embracing imperfection means letting go of the idea that every day needs to be optimised. Some days will be a write-off, others will be wildly productive, and both are part of the bigger picture. The key is to recognise that balance matters more than perfection. 

    Conclusion: It’s a Journey 

    If there’s one thing I’ve learned about productivity, it’s that there’s no single “right” way to do it. What works brilliantly for one person might be completely useless for someone else, and that’s fine. Productivity is personal — it depends on our priorities, our focus, our environment, and the season of life we’re in. 

    For me, it’s about understanding my own habits, identifying distractions, and using simple systems to manage them. But it’s also about remembering that productivity isn’t the only measure of a good day. Sometimes a productive day is one where I’ve completed my goals — and sometimes it’s a day spent resting, recharging, or doing something that genuinely makes me happy. 

    If you’ve ever found yourself lying in bed at night thinking about all the things you should have done, you’re not alone. We’re all trying to strike a balance between progress and peace, ambition and rest. Maybe the goal isn’t to be productive every single day, but to create enough productive days that the less active ones don’t matter as much. 

    At the end of the day, life isn’t just about getting things done — it’s about living. And if you can find a rhythm that lets you achieve your goals while still enjoying the things you love, that’s true productivity. 

    What about you? How do you define productivity in your own life? Do you have any tips or routines that help you find the right balance? Share your thoughts in the comments — I’d love to hear them. 

  • Why I Journal: More Than Just Writing Things Down 

    Why I Journal: More Than Just Writing Things Down 

    If you’d told me a year ago that I’d be someone who journals almost daily, I probably wouldn’t have believed you. But since January 1st, 2025, journaling has quietly become a regular part of my mornings. I don’t have an exact routine—sometimes I’ll jot something down right after waking up, other times it happens after breakfast or just before I start my workday. It all depends on how busy the morning is, but at some point between 7am and 11am, I always manage to fit it in. What started as a typical New Year’s resolution to organize my thoughts has grown into a habit that grounds me, motivates me, and helps make sense of everything going on in my life. 

    How It All Started 

    Journaling wasn’t a totally new idea to me. I’d always liked the sound of it, but I’d never wanted a physical diary—too risky for prying eyes! Still, that new year, I thought maybe it could help me declutter my mind and boost my productivity. I tested out a few different journaling apps (there are loads), but eventually landed on Journey.Cloud, which I’ve ended up really liking and have stuck with for the past seven months. 

    To be honest, those first entries? Awkward. I had no idea what to write, and even found myself googling “journal entry template” just to get started. But after a few weeks, something shifted: the words started coming more easily, and I realized I could write about literally anything—my goals for the week, what I was thinking about, how my day went, or what I’ve got planned next. It became a structure that helped me reflect, plan, and keep my life organized in a way nothing else ever has. 

    What Journaling Does for Me 

    The biggest surprise has been how much journaling helps me actually get things done. I use it to keep myself motivated as I work toward different goals, and to track everything from work progress to finances. Sometimes, when my partner points out something I could do better (as partners do), I write it down—making myself accountable for the next day. When I journal again, I check in: did I actually do what I said I would? 

    It’s become a great tool for reflection, especially for someone like me with a not-so-great memory. Life moves fast, and I realized I want to have a record—a way to look back at all the places I’ve been, things I’ve done, and everything I’ve achieved in a year. Whether it’s a career win, a memorable weekend, or just a string of good days, the process of noting it down helps me actually appreciate it. 

    Another unexpected bonus? Scratching my writing itch. I’ve always wanted to write a fantasy or sci-fi book (I’ve got pages of half-baked ideas), but fiction is tricky, and I only enjoy it when inspiration actually strikes. Journaling has been a way for me to explore that side of myself in a low-pressure way. Sometimes, when a story idea pops into my head, it goes straight into my journal. If nothing else, it keeps me writing, and I’m convinced that practicing in any way I can—journaling included—brings me one step closer to finally tackling that book on my bucket list. 

    How I Journal (and Why It Works for Me) 

    When it comes to how I journal, I’ve found that digital is the only way that really works for me. I’ve never been interested in a handwritten diary—partly because I just don’t enjoy writing by hand, but mostly because I like knowing my entries are private and safely tucked away where nobody’s going to stumble across them. After trying several journaling apps, I landed on Journey.Cloud, which I use on both my phone and laptop, and it’s become my go-to for the past seven months. 

    My journaling “schedule” is pretty flexible, but I do aim for entries most mornings during the week. For example, I might sit down on a Thursday and write about how I handled a difficult conversation at work, or use my entry to break down a financial target and list out the actual numbers I’m aiming for. If my partner mentioned something I need to improve, I’ll jot it down as a specific reminder, and make sure to check in the next day about whether I acted on it. Sometimes I’ll brainstorm about a goal I’m working toward—like saving for a holiday, or prepping for a big project. 

    On Mondays, I tend to write a little more, catching up on whatever happened over the weekend since I usually skip journaling on Saturdays and Sundays. I’ve also found myself using my journal to record creative ideas, especially when I’m struck with inspiration for a story or some world-building for the sci-fi book I hope to write someday. There are even days when my entry is literally just a bullet list of what’s on my mind. What matters is that it’s a space where my thoughts and plans can flow, see the light of day, and not just spin around in my head. 

    Misconceptions & What I’ve Learned 

    A lot of people (my old self included) worry that journaling “the right way” means you have to write every day, or pour your heart out, or fill pages with beautiful prose. The truth is, you can set your own rules. Your journal doesn’t have to have a set length or frequency—it just needs to work for you. The more you do it, the more natural it gets. At first, it might feel forced, but if you stick with it, you’ll find your own rhythm. 

    What I’ve discovered most is that journaling is about being honest with yourself and giving yourself the space to reflect, dream, and improve. It’s not always deep—sometimes it’s just what you had for lunch or your to-do list for the week. But gradually, through these small entries, you get a clearer sense of who you are and where you’re headed. 

    Thinking of Starting? Here’s My Advice 

    If you’ve been thinking about journaling, my advice is: start simple. Write what you feel—don’t stress about eloquence or structure. Try different apps or methods until you find what feels the most comfortable. And don’t worry if you miss days or weeks. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about capturing your journey in a way that makes sense to you. 

    So, Why Do I Journal? 

    It began as a resolution, but journaling has become a daily act of self-care and self-improvement—a place for goals, accountability, memories, and ideas big and small. Maybe you’ve thought about trying it, too. If so, what’s held you back? Or if you already journal, what’s been your biggest discovery? Let’s talk in the comments—I’d love to hear your thoughts.